Anecdotal Interculture (Assignment 4)

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The concourse of events were as such: Jared, a close acquaintance of North African lineage and a virtuoso distance athlete I dreamt of matching up to, and it was the summer of 2004, the time once again for the quadrennial Olympic Games in Athens.

I received a North-African dinner invitation from him and duly accepted it with no fuss. While at it together with a few friends of his origin, I took note of nothing exceptional in terms of flavor or texture of dish, for which the meal and henceforth its conversations proceeded unremarkably; I simply had nothing useful to pronounce! Given that, the order of events that followed promised much fanfare and fodder for mutual interaction, in the way of cultural themes.

We first sat among ourselves after dinner in front of a plasma screen and before a talking point could pitch, the long awaited Olympic track 1500m duel between the supreme miler of all-time, a North African, and his heir apparent came into view on air. Before the competitors broke out their starting positions, we had been tight-lipped and fixated for five good minutes; my friends taking anxious interest in the pre-race happenings and commentaries surrounding their comrade.

The race fired to a stupendous ovation in the stadium Olympic, bringing nervous torment to bear upon me and my friends for the rest of three and quarter minute race, in which their comrade won by the thick of his vest. What followed soon after was unexpected conversation.

Reveling in victory and the emblem inscribed on the maroon of the Moroccan flag, the winner dived, with admirable but suspicious affection, into the equally suspicious bosom of his fellow comrade and competitor; smothering him with multiple smooches.

Thought and tongue tied, and short on breath following a harrowing race, I only had breaking into wild guffaw the only physical reality. That was container for all my uneasiness at watching two grown-up men in perceived scandal; while I was more alarmed the Games’ officials had made no disciplinary inquest into the manner of intercourse between them.

In complete oblivion, my friends had all the while perceived the state of my non compos mentis, and conveniently had me for amusement dessert. They hadn't made sardonic opinions as I inwardly and outwardly displayed of the two men, and no conflict resulted of my supposed faux pas. They only thought I had over-reacted according to what they believed about Asian cultures through their sojourns past. Embarrassed through the bottom, I had to be forgiven for cutting an insisting figure about such acts of unguarded homosexuality being unacceptable even in the contemporary West, and never had I been surprised more when they passed them off as fast as they would an insignificant lady to enlivening me about the closed culture and behavioral practices of North Africa.

More than ever had the two men engaged in a fellowship of brotherly love and care, nothing illicit even extraordinary, and I should expect the same in any other occasion joyous or grievous, as a staple of North African agency.

When we got ourselves doubtless agreement on this, eased thereafter into the tranquil night in our generous remark of a very gifted middle-distance runner, and now Olympic Champion!!

What an athlete; more what a culture!

(560 words)

Cheers
Que maestro!

Mark's personal definition of culture (as required by Brad)

[Culture is a figment of the imagined (ie, illusory) through which it sustains some metaphorical form; the collectivity of which consists in beliefs and value systems institutional and non-institutional, and bias of agency and disposition; wherein mutually inclusive human parties often as much delineate eccentric cultural parameters as they are by it.]

My above definition was inspired by the one of Harvard's in the earlier post. As such, readers may find some parallel but yet without expense of originality, which I hope had been patent enough.

Cheers
Viva la cultura a todo tiempo

Brilliant Harvard print definition on culture

I urge every fellow coursemate to see the exquisite brilliance in the definition hypothesized then revealed of culture below. If there was such a thing as a Hand of God a la Maradona to exist for scholastic brilliance; THIS HAS TO BE IT!!!!!!!

"Culture consists of patterns, explicit and implicit, of and for behavior acquired and transmitted by symbols, constituting the distinctive achievements of human groups, including their embodiments in artifacts; the essential core of culture consists of traditional (i.e. historically derived and selected) ideas and especially their attached values; culture systems may, on the one hand, be considered as products of action, and on the other as conditioning elements of further action."


Take special note of the definition portion in green and italics. I especially loved this part of the definition, if you saw what I saw. It made the Hand of God besides of scholarly culture, but out of people in stark realization as I still am trap.

This definition might be useful for Assignment 4 on Intercultural Conflicts!




Cheers
Que bravo!

Standards of Professional Communication

This blogpost was given in letter style.

Two fellow coursemates of ES2007S were engaged in meaningful debate over what constituted standards of professional communication. Accordingly, let us earnestly investigate what those standards appear like.

I thought Michelle and Jake were discussing about the issue of 'what is justice'? Arguments about standard or not were really arguments about what's just or not. And since I knew that justice was moderation in excellence, therefore something that was standard must also had been likewise. Standard must have been moderation and vice versa. Communications skills too outdated weren't any good; but neither were those that were far too sophisticated to a fault! As mentioned in my first assignment post, the standard of effective communication must therefore always be a synthesis of conflicting values which was then the standard it achieved. With that, you could argue that spewing vulgarities was somewhat appropriate, if we did it in moderation, which was to consider the interpersonal context and circumstances.

With regards to who decided the standards, you needed to first understand the nature of politics, or so I thought. But since Brad vehemently objected to any response concerning politics and the like, I shall not go much into it. In fact, when I mentioned justice above, I was really talking about politics! But it was right to say the people who were in power decided the standard, or what was acceptable and not. Yes---they were not perfect because they were human agents, but still they must have had something distinct in terms of personality, achievement, experience and the like, and their judgements should rightly be held in high regard then. Their judgements weren't perfect ideals, rather they were more next-best sort of perfect, and they were constantly refining their agencies to account for inconsistencies. And by so doing, they arrived at the standard, precisely because they had accounted for all inconsistencies, and found that ideal balance between them or moderation.

Finally, when Jake mentioned about standards having cultural currencies, he couldn't have been closer to the truth!

Why?

Standards were justice entities who themselves were social constructs. And since culture was a subset of social, Jake's statement was invulnerable to vandalism!

Cheers
Que tienen feliz muchissimo!

La nota de aplicacion (Draft 2 Edited)

Mark Gan
76 San Diego Lane
Singapore 329506
65-90000000
Corazon64@hotmail.com

January 10th 2011


Quantum Geoservices Pte Ltd
67 Ubi Ave. 1, #06-01
Starhub Green
Singapore 408942

Dear Hiring Professionals,

                                                                        

                                                                              Geophysicist
I am enclosing, herewith, my CV, in response to your advertisement for the above post; recommended by Professor Graham Oliver of National University of Singapore, through your company’s website. Given my specific interest and institutional specialization in physical geosciences, seismic data processing and analysis, combined with excellent touches of relevant math know-how; these competences will provide the edge for Quantum Geoservices.

As developed in the CV, a study in the field of Offshore Oil and Gas Technologies has enriched and exposed me to most technical aspects and requirements of a Geophysicist’s such as depth migration processing and velocity model building, and exposed me to various engineering, business and economic aspects of the industry. During which I also gained valuable hands-on project and professional experience at Singapore Technologies Engineering Group. Where through the process of developing an environmentally friendly, low cost, energy efficient, and marketable energy product, I practiced and learnt the importance of effective written, verbal and interpersonal communications skills whilst analyzing, researching, discussing, planning as a team consisting of diverse peoples; and cultivated a resilient and ever-positive mindset and key organizational skills when faced with tight deadlines and other project work limitations. I believe the professional and people skills developed that contributed greatly to the project’s success and award would be greatly sought after at Quantum Geoservices.

Additionally, I am actively engaged in distance running sports and have achieved significant milestones in my athletics history and background. More importantly though, the means to which I arrived at podium tops and victory ceremonies such as the highly demanding physical conditionings taught such relevant values such as hard work, motivation, commitment, discipline, tenacity and fortitude into me, that I can find no better place or value for them than in your firm and its engineering and business goals and objectives of work and customer excellence.

Consequently, I whole-heartedly believe my study program, work, and personal experiences, in and out of Oil and Gas, would help make sure Quantum Geoservices fulfill its mission objectives both in quality seismic data and other geophysical challenges. To that end, the post of Geophysicist would be worthwhile and challenging I feel, when my skill-sets and competencies can be utilized and valued at a growing firm such as yours.

With that, it is my pleasure to be contacted at the number or e-mail above if you have any queries. Requests for references will be promptly returned with one, and I further look forward to hearing and speaking with you. Thank you for your time and consideration.


Sincerely,



Mr Mark Gan

A Mark Personal Statement! (For Research Proposal)

Personal Statement  

Hi, this is Mark,

I am a final year student at the National University of Singapore; on the cusp of manhood and a jaunty sense of altruistic purpose in all my mission objectives in some ways, foray into what seems at first a grim global reserve due to its uncertainties in others; but nonetheless not any less antsy to engrave and enshrine my peculiar life stamp, for the good effects of family, society, country, and the highest of them all; the largest country of world. Subsumed and driven by this major ideal, is this minor one with no less holistic intent; of trying to make sanctuary of living out of a Singapore, and through timely URA’s projects such we undertake herewith; to that end is conviction, justification, persuasion enough.

Truly yours, Singapore, for always,

Mark. G

An Application Letter (Draft 1)

Mark Gan

76 San Diego Lane

Singapore 329506

65-90000000

Corazon64@hotmail.com

January 10^th 2011

67 Ubi Ave. 1, #06-01
Starhub Green
Singapore 408942

Dear Hiring Professionals,

Geophysicist

I am enclosing, herewith, my CV, in response to your advertisement for the above post; recommended by Professor Graham Oliver of National University of Singapore, through your company’s website. Given my specific interest and institutional specialization in Physical Geosciences, Seismic Data Processing and analysis, combined with excellent touches of relevant Math know-how; these competences, I believe, would make the consummate Geophysicist of asset to Quantum Geoservices.

As developed in the CV, a pending degree in the field of Offshore Oil and Gas Technologies has enriched and exposed me, to most technical aspects and requirements of a Geophysicist’s; but more importantly, affirmed the merits of team-based camaraderie in an ever globalizing industry as such.

Appropriately, and given your drive for synergistic ethos; I, concomitantly, learned, practiced, then mastered, these relevant skills in a few industrial projects, one of note was jointly undertaken with Singapore Technologies Engineering Group; in which without prior knowledge and little favorable advice and guidance, to conceive, conceptualize; then design, manufacture, processe, test, analyze the viability and cost effectiveness of the embryonic Dye-Sensitized Solar Cell.

Then, in characteristic youthful naviete; and facing the lack of time due to schoolwork and other CCA activities; funds due to the lack of priority and attention afforded mere student projects, supervised expertise due to conflicting time schedules; and even interpersonal and work ethic differences due to cross-culture;  I and my project quintet had to adjust, accommodate, compromise, ad-lib, expedite, exhort, and finally resolve every roadblock into a reasonable success: in the form of the final manufactured, workable, marketable, and user-friendly product. Under these circumstances, we could ill afford to bear any organizational, interpersonal, analytical, and professional weaknesses; in which we also learned, consequently and concurrently, the hard way; about these hard, and especially soft skills your company, in all certainty, will look favorably upon.

To put paid to these diverse, aforementioned skills; your company might be excited to know I had gained a selection of merit to the regionally well-known and prestigious Oil and Gas Asean conference, to participate and present a work of research and its findings, in front of a most venerated panel of judges and even better accomplished guests; inclusive of the most bitterly contended chance to network, with multifarious oil and gas firms, overseas and local; whose fields of industry and work scope were similar, if not an exact match, with yours.

Yet, as a self-styled fundamental, I am of the better perspective that most professional life-skills, hard and soft, organizational, interpersonal, or otherwise; themselves are framed in bigger and more significant experiences and lessons of life outside of academia and profession. Appropriately, through distance running sports and its furious training, racing and some leadership roles; not physical but mental discipline of the most high, is usually required of me at all times in life, consequently nurturing besides such a positive attitude, core skills and values, transcending profession and academia, but also the ability to make these enduring, thus endearing, because they have been made more internal; and in time of trial, supply me with resilience, versatile, and reliability.

I whole-heartedly believe my degree, work, and life experiences, in and out of Oil and Gas, will not only help Quantum Geoservices attain its goals, but take it to the next level as a global industry player. To that end, the post of Geophysicist might be all the better worthwhile and challenging I feel, and a soon to be reward for your faith, trust and vision in me.

With that, it is my pleasure to be contacted at the phone number or e-mail above, if you have any doubts or queries. Requests for references will be promptly returned with one, and I further look forward to hearing and speaking with you. Thank you for your time and consideration.

Sincerely,

Mr Mark Gan


Enclosure

*Forget about issues with length; my main aim with this letter was to practice subtlety or being delicate and elegant. Comments to that end are eagerly anticipated, together with all other types anybody wants to make, for fun or real.*


Toss

Hypocrisy vs Obligation in Professional Communication

The post has been styled in letter correspondance.

Agent Mitchelle cannot endanger her dignity and self-respect any further, on every good occasion her close and far relatives come among her, amusing themselves with line after line of ill-timed verbal and non verbal drudgery, on a range of fragile issues, their want of interpersonal finesse will come to offend. In this light, we look into agent Mitchelle's discomforts.

That was some scheme you have there; for why else do I feel so empathetic; after reading what you wrote, and I dare say the same for everybody else too, if it weren't personally, and willfully, designed for? How crafty was it of you, Michelle, to get us so quickly into a unanimous and agreeable mood, that I even thought your fault laid, in not prefacing us of it!

But this fault of yours, Michelle, was so unusually well-received, which will be your surprise, by me and perhaps others too; for setting in chain a most wondrous and serene feeling, that of which empathy, in all of us, call its kindred. I and we are most blessed to feel this way, in one with you; and we can subscribe to your affect most, consequently.

Yet, Michelle, even though I have given you noble praise concerning your emotional maturity; and your ability to prejudice us, similarly, into it; I urge you to reconsider a few of your sentiments, of which I so incline to call preconceived.

You mentioned, good Mitchelle, this: "Hence, I can understand why people would want to escape such hypocrisy during this season."

I, we, could thoroughly empathize with you, Mitchelle: but saying that yours, mine, or our relatives are engaged in hypocritical behavior should be the furthest thing from our minds. You are really saying your relatives are no better than a bunch of criminals, because only the latter are nearly as adept at deception as hypocrisy itself.

Hypocrisy is saying/doing/thinking one thing and doing a completely different saying/doing/thinking. For instance, Mitchelle, if your future husband told you he loves you in front of your face, but you overhear him saying the complete opposite to his friends another day; he has contradicted himself and have truely gotten into a situation with hypocrisy.

But consider the state of your relatives: could you call them hypocrites, unless they exhibited dialectical dispositions; such as hating you so strongly behind your back one time, but appearing a loving and caring manner in front of your presence? No, you couldn't Mitchelle, or would I be wrong in that? I cannot half-believe one's relative can have any hatred for one, because it goes against reasonable logic. And unless you so severely slighted one or all of your relatives, and they consequently displayed dialectical and contradictory responses in their interaction with you, you can hardly call them hypocrites? Wouldn’t that, now, make more sense?

Your relatives love you, Mitchelle, perhaps not as much as your parents, or your future husband, or God Himself; but they certainly know you as one of theirs, by virtue of their relationship with your parents. Hypocrisy is an impossible charge, Mitchelle. Obligation sounds like more appropriate.

Obligation is a duty, or role performed; one not out of hypocrisy. Hypocrisy says: it is my curse; obligation says: it is my duty; but the best of them all, Mitchelle, love (God's love especially) says: it is my utter pleasure, beloved.

Obligation is bounded by governing lore, laws, rules, of means of acting, and is at least taken up with less hostility and contradiction as hypocrisy. An obligated agent may control and put off his hostility better and more effectively, precisely because it is obligation! An obligated agent is given to and governed by moral ethics such as communitarianism or patriotism; and in such high morality, hypocrisy may not take root because it is totally inconsistent. An obligated agent, though he hates some thing or body, will nonetheless force himself to love that thing or body, PRECISELY BECAUSE IT IS OBLIGATION!!! And by obligation, he would HAVE TO HAD destroy and replace all hostile and contradictory feelings and thoughts with OBLIGATED AND APPROPRIATE, LOVE, REGARD, OR OTHER ONES, THAT ARE MAINSTREAM ENOUGH TO THE COMMUNITY OR TERRITORY IN WHICH HE LIVES!

Therefore Mitchelle, your relatives are rather obligated, not hypocrites. You should be thankful Mitchelle, that they continue to ask you such questions, because they serve as evidence of recognition of your existence in this world, if anything!

While I, we, can empathize with you, Mitchelle, I am never going to excuse myself for having any of such distasteful feelings, and you shouldnt too. And that is because we need to learn to change our perceptions, and therefore judgements on a supposedly negative situation! Why can’t, you or we, think: "Oh wow, I feel so pleasurable and blessed that my aunt and cousin asked so much similar things about me as past years'." Why must we be SO INCLINED to think NEGATIVE than positive, Mitchelle? Why, why, why? Why can’t we, Mitchelle, have more affinity with positive, and therefore only have positive judgement about things? Why must questions ask by your cousins and relatives be BAD, just because you heard them for years and so think you HAVE THE RIGHT TO feeling negatively affected? Can’t you see, Mitchelle that your being negatively affected are all an illusion? Why, Mitchelle, are we so able to perceive such innocent questions, or anything in fact, as BAD? Has our mind been so tainted by the evils of socialization, or should it not have already been resurrected by Christ's death on Calvary?

You see Mitchelle, it all boils down to our innermost psyches/minds/spirits/souls, which as I mentioned, is largely manipulated and framed by socialization, IN SINGAPORE! Our socialization, in the singaporean way/psyche/mind, is uniquely at fault, Mitchelle; because in England, Mitchelle, English relatives mingle and interact so assuredly and convicted of heart and their love, that their socialization in that aspect of their domestic far exceeds the one in Singapore. But of course English socialization has other evils; just as every socialization in every territory has theirs because they are all different. So Mitchelle, what I am asking you to do is two-pronged.

Get out of that Singaporean mindset you have when you are around relatives, family members and the like. I meant you get out of the negative aspect of the Singaporean socialization or agency and keep the positive one (if there is even any at all). The second is to get out of the negative Singaporean agency by becoming highly aware of how you perceive things, which right now is almost always negatively, and try from now on to find positive, or pleasure and joy, in every affair; social, marital, economical, domestic, professional, of your life! But of course you or I, cannot simply expect you to start desiring and having joy right away in visiting your relatives on festive occasions, nor to have positive only perceptions, and therefore judgements, about every single body or thing right away; because that is not humanly possible. That is why Mitchelle, you have a God to help you achieve that; and only he can empower you, and will do so, if you ALSO truly desire, by pray and petition.

Cheers

Culture and Professional Communication

This post is styled in letter correspondance.

Vanessa finds culture and personality a hindrance in interpersonal communication; but let us earnestly investigate.

You have treated us too well; agent Vanessa, with this deeply felt post, rather than the holidays us.

But you treated us, too, with a beautiful opinion that culture is a cause of interpersonal conflicts: but isn't that perfectly natural and stating the obvious? For everyone would then be so inclined to think you hadn't, or they didn’t, already know? But we, here and now, like to believe you knew better than that.

But in case it might not have been clear to you, agent Vanessa, allow me to personally give you a treat, consequently.

It makes perfect sense to presuppose differing cultural backgrounds are interpersonal conflicts themselves; simply because difference presupposes conflict, or would anyone decry otherwise?

It is akin to asking if happiness and sadness caused some of the happiness and sadness in our lives, or wouldn't anybody say likewise too? That would be the most inconsequential question of every household in every territory.

So, agent Vanessa, difference is inherently conflict and vice versa, and that makes the question somewhat brain-twisting. Haha!

But, of course; that is not my treat; for I think I know the source of your question, and therefore, here and now, is the real one below.

Conflicting cultural backgrounds are hotbeds for city bedlam; including suburban and rural ones, in any fashion of rule in any social disposition of any state. These conflicts are, from time to time, taken up by anthropological studies, for close scrutiny, with presumably at least some hope for partial resolution.

First and foremost, the means of communication, coupled also with the means of operation or agency, are different from culture to culture, and even from country to country; even though 2 countries may share almost the same culture (china and singapore), but a far away almost. It is the same for language: even though many people speak English all over the world, English in Singapore hardly sounds like English in Africa or Japan or USA; which is sociolinguistics. Similarly, though cultures of different countries are fundamentally the same; by way of territorial difference alone, culture is different enough to be framed separately and respectively; which is socio-cultural.

When agency and means of communication are different; where in fact, agency already presupposes communication as one of its cornerstones; conflict (argument, displeasure, misgivings, ill-feelings, grudges, double-cross, blackmail etc) is inevitable. Just the fact an agent thinks to himself or herself that she is about to communicate with another totally different agent, culturally and therefore mentally, is conflict enough! Because what she sees and hears when he/she interacts with somebody different in actual; or is going to see and hear, as she/he can imagine before the actual, are themselves conflicts: because they are different and therefore the difference. IF THERE IS ALREADY CONFLICT BEFORE THE ACTUAL CONFLICT, agent Vanessa, THEN ALL THE BETTER THERE WILL BE SUCH AS THE LATTER, or would anybody contend otherwise?

So is it any pleasant surprise, agent Vanessa, to say that differing cultural backgrounds are any blame for interpersonal conflicts, or would you hopefully feel unpleasant now? And that these conflicts of culture are exclusively due to differing agencies framed in differing socio-cultural environments, in which also their unique socializations drive, and to that you couldn’t cry foul?

Therefore if I have solved for the above argument; and your treat, consequently, let me move to better arguments and treats!

The only question that would be worthy of argument or treat, is in the method of interpersonal communication one can use in overcoming differing cultural backgrounds that cause conflicts, which hadn’t been asked by agent Vanessa yet; and is not obvious in her question.

But I think the same logic and skills and sensibilities apply: treat every other agent, differently, respectfully, kindly, and appropriately given also the context and mood of the interaction, because every agent has different temper and styles of interaction, regardless of whether cultural differences are present. The interpersonal and delicate method you employ to interact with a Singaporean friend, and supposing you are good at it, shall be the same one you use with an American or Japanese. This is not saying you use the same exact skill; for every agent is different, rather you use the SAME SPIRIT OF BEHAVIOUR OR MOTIVATION!!!

With the above, you will do just fine, with any soul or body; foreigner or not, even with a Tibetan or Eskimo boyfriend, or so in whom I presume you will find discording humor!!

Before the treat is over; your other question: personalities are also somewhat agencies, predispositions, and are no doubt genetically hardwired: but nurture is as much, if not more, important than nature. Therefore I would say personalities are some sorts of dispositions rather, and are also themselves largely framed in and by socio-cultural backgrounds.

And now the treat over; hopefully you have risen to Agent Vanessa!!

Cheers

Am I really a standard bearer?

The blogpost is in letter correspondance style

This is a retort to an accusation almost: that I am the standard bearer of blog post writing in ES2007S. Faizal, the undertaker of the letter, and perhaps you beloved, will come to learn about such parochial views below.

Que lindo, Faizal!(You are so cute in espanol!)

I haven't flattered you as much as you did me, Faizal; so I should rightly be more surprised than you were with me. Haha!

But it bothered me greatly to know somebody called me the 'standard bearer' in blog writing; for supposing its truth, and after a long search high and low, I should long before had found a most commensurable posts of evidences to equal the requirement standard agreed: but that failed to materialize to form, good Faizal, which had been some way regretful; though given a choice, certainly was not a fault to bear for Brad or anybody else, and another, premature.

For supposing I were in fact a standard bearer: but in complete irony, no body had wrote to property as such, or literary gentle enough likewise; that would follow such a standard as none at all. I, therefore, couldn't have bore any less standard than I could have bore more indignity and lost of some sort of a functionable regarding self.

The standard, Faizal, that we both dutifully employ ourselves in; by which also we sought to apply to and  improve, to the better consequences than all in our company, eluded our grasp for such as to be visited only on terms of majority. For the law: might makes an antecedent condition of right; and majority designates a certain arrogant and mighty supremacy about it, comparable in proportionable terms, with 27 other souls of ES2007s'; versus only the pair or trio(including an Issac) of us, Faizal.

Given into majority; right, in all eventuality, and usually stripped of its very core idiosyncratic virtue then, rather got unexcited even apprehensive, at its being revised without a notice's change, to a majority's rite: which usually was never one to contain much things sanctifying, in the way intuitive to sacred undertakings, for being self-concerned to some restriction. It brought forth into sentience, instead, a sickening, and dire, and likely foreboding of its kind; in which rited right had ill a chance in forestalling, due to itself made unjust by majority's might: but failing any chance rited right answered to its true, virtuous, and striving call; appropriated instead, by majority (27 other ES2007S students) and overweened might who remained in the standard and defined it, its suboordination to might and majority remained as tacit, and indisputable, as the law vouched for it.

Voila Faizal!

Cheers

Proactivity than neutrality in Professional Communication

The following blogpost is in letter correspondance style.


Eunice subscribes to the view that professional communication is only as effective as it is passive; stopping short of affecting any change positive in another agent. Right here is where you and I should consider the problem surfaces; and right below is an antidotal self-prescription, from which from the mediocrity and over-trustfulness of youth she can find freedom.

Hi Eunice, consider this too that you learnt and read about in the module materials.

Isn't professional communication about trying to influence and attract the people we communicate with? Therefore, your statement above might present some issues. Consider this below, good Eunice.

When a man tries to romantically attract a woman, he needs to impose his view on her. Before you jump to conclusions on what this statement may mean, let me therefore clarify. He, of course doesn't go about verbally giving a long treatise on why she should think highly of him, because that is all talk and no action! Rather, he would in the initial stages of the attraction or relationship demonstrate his X-factor through his non-verbal and verbal interaction with her about other matters not including why she should think highly of him!!! He is NOT going to demontrate his X-factor in verbal and non-verbal communication by BLATANTLY telling her he has fantastic verbal and non-verbal skills; he isn't going to IMPOSE DIRECTLY his point of view on her, BUT HE WILL NONETHELESS STILL IMPOSE! The type of impose I am talking about is AN INDIRECT IMPOSE. So it remains that he is still imposing his views on others, IT'S JUST THAT HE MAKES IT IN SUCH A WAY THAT IT DOESNT SEEM LIKE SO! How does he do an indirect impose. He would demonstrate his X-factor in verbal and non-verbal communication by communicating on other issues NOT RELATED TO HIS PROFICIENCY IN VERBAL AND NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION. For instance, in just like any casual interaction between a couple, they might talk about food, clothes, shoes, work or anything fun under the sky! Both the guy and the girl respectively will separately be trying to indirectly/secretly impose their best personality traits and ideas on the other, to make sure the other stays attracted for as long as they desire! And the way they suggest their gender supremacy with respect to other mating prospects is through their interactions using verbal and nonverbal communication, rather than ABOUT verbal and nonverbal communication!

So the imposition of ideas has taken place, good Eunice, just that it doesnt happen directly. And this works in any area of professional communication in any sphere of living, Eunice. At the workplace you want the same dont you? You want to be able to impose your ideas about yourself on others in the workplace because YOU WANT TO ATTRACT AND INFLUENCE THEM----THE SAME WAY A PROSPECTIVE GROOM WANTS HIS PROSPECTIVE WIFE TO THINK AND FEEL VERY WELL ABOUT HIM!

This brings us to the question on the NATURE OF THE IMPOSITION OF IDEAS! The imposition of ideas would only be sanctioned IF YOU ARE TRYING TO IMPOSE IDEAS ABOUT YOURSELF IN OTHERS, AND LESS ABOUT TRYING TO IMPOSE IDEAS ABOUT OTHERS IN THEMSELVES!! There is a way to do the latter but it cannot be done directly. The way I feel one should do the latter is through using one's body of personal physical, mental, social, political, spiritual experiences to change the views of others about themselves. But I won't talk too much about the latter because it's complicated and more difficult. Let me talk about the former---about trying to impose ideas about yourself in others, which is to change people's ideas about yourself.

For instance the prospective groom wants his prospective wife to feel that he is a very matured interpersonal communicator and therefore she can put her faith and trust in him for eternity, so he needs to demonstrate it; or in the workplace, an employee wants to convince his boss that he is the right man to take up the new overseas management role, so he again must demontrate it through actual evidence and also his ability to verbally and nonverbally communicate his suitability for that role. In all these examples the imposition is exclusively personally biased. The imposition involves MARKETING oneself to others. So, Eunice, it follows that THERE IS IMPOSITION TAKING PLACE! It also follows that is there NOTHING CLEARLY WRONG in imposing the views concerning oneself in others, UNLESS THE INTENT IS TO DECEIVE, WHICH FOLLOWS YOU WANT TO LIE ABOUT YOURSELF!!!!! It follows too that YOU ARENT disrespecting others when you impose your TRUE views concerning yourself in others, unless your method of trying to impose is reprehensible. For instance, the employee might AGGRESSIVELY CONFRONT his boss at GUNPOINT to make his boss see that he is suited for the role, which is of course daft!!! Or for the prospective groom, he may mistakenly use the weapon of threat and revenge to force his prospective wife to see that he is the most eligible bachelor on earth for her, which follows that he just did the opposite!!! In all these examples I show that you can impose ideas about yourself on others, but you just have to use the best interpersonal methodology to do so, and while doing so, you have also done the ideals of attraction and influence in professional communication the GREATEST, FINEST, FITTEST JUSTICE!!!!

Now consider another angle Eunice, the one I talked about a few paragraphs above----about imposing your view of others on themselves! Did I not say that was a complicated and highly challenging issue? The reason is because other people or agents do not like being told something is wrong with them, their views or agent! Because we agents are highly autonomous beings once we reach adulthood, and we given that free will as adults, will almost always tend to employ that autonomy to the exclusion of others. That is why adulthood is one of the evils. But having said that, there are certain advantages that come with adulthood, nonetheless. (In every thing/person/type/nature there are both good and bad). However, it is the disadvantages (negativity) rather than the advantages (positivity) of adulthood, or for that matter anything else on earth, that tend to exert a stronger pull on our psyche/mind/soul/spirit. How is this true? For instance, we can SO EASILY THINK AND FEEL THAT SOMEBODY IS JUDGING (negative) US WE CAN EVEN PREDICT THEIR JUDGEMENT COMING!!! That is why it has to be true when I say that the disadvantages (negatives) associated with adulthood or anything else on earth have a stronger influence on our psyches/minds/spirits than the advantages(positives). That is just one fine example! But let me move on to what I am supposed to talk about, that of which concerns imposing your views of others on themselves---which you think is wrong and disrespectful.

Consider this case good Eunice. Would you say a pastor in front of his congregation is being disrespectful or doing something wrong when he preaches about Scripture? That would be the last thing you would say about the job of a pastor's right? Rather a pastor can tell others' faults to them straight in their faces because he is employing an expert interpersonal demeanour and posture to address his congregation concerning issues about where they have failed as Christians in their duty to God and being true to him. Wouldnt you say so? And the pastor is therefore IMPOSING God's views of their behaviour or sin on them!! Isn't that right too? The pastor addresses his congregation in a civil, noble and polite manner, which is also interpersonal, and he uses HIS AND OTHERS' EXPERIENCES AND SHORTCOMINGS TO MAKE HIS CONGREGATION SEE AND AGREE THAT THEY SIMILARLY HAVE QUITE THE SAME EXPERIENCES AND SHORTCOMINGS AS HUMAN BEINGS!!!!! So the pastor is also employing EMPATHY! Also the pastor is addressing his audience as mature adults not kids, and so he wouldnt be TALKING DOWN as he would with toddlers. All these will facilitate his goal to impose and ingrain the Word of God in his congregation.  So Eunice, it is not at all impossible, or even remotely disrespectful to impose your views of others on them if you know how to do it correctly! And you can apply the same interpersonal expertise of a pastor's to impose your view of others on themselves both in the workplace and outside of it.

In fact, right now as I write, I am precisely doing the thing of trying to impose my ideas of yours on you, or dont you see it, good Eunice? You couldnt call that disrespect would you? That should be the furthest thing from your mind, isn't that right? In fact the closest thing to think, Eunice, is that I have done you the greatest respect out of anybody in this forum, by writing in such detail, effervescence AND LENGTH!!!

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