Proactivity than neutrality in Professional Communication

The following blogpost is in letter correspondance style.


Eunice subscribes to the view that professional communication is only as effective as it is passive; stopping short of affecting any change positive in another agent. Right here is where you and I should consider the problem surfaces; and right below is an antidotal self-prescription, from which from the mediocrity and over-trustfulness of youth she can find freedom.

Hi Eunice, consider this too that you learnt and read about in the module materials.

Isn't professional communication about trying to influence and attract the people we communicate with? Therefore, your statement above might present some issues. Consider this below, good Eunice.

When a man tries to romantically attract a woman, he needs to impose his view on her. Before you jump to conclusions on what this statement may mean, let me therefore clarify. He, of course doesn't go about verbally giving a long treatise on why she should think highly of him, because that is all talk and no action! Rather, he would in the initial stages of the attraction or relationship demonstrate his X-factor through his non-verbal and verbal interaction with her about other matters not including why she should think highly of him!!! He is NOT going to demontrate his X-factor in verbal and non-verbal communication by BLATANTLY telling her he has fantastic verbal and non-verbal skills; he isn't going to IMPOSE DIRECTLY his point of view on her, BUT HE WILL NONETHELESS STILL IMPOSE! The type of impose I am talking about is AN INDIRECT IMPOSE. So it remains that he is still imposing his views on others, IT'S JUST THAT HE MAKES IT IN SUCH A WAY THAT IT DOESNT SEEM LIKE SO! How does he do an indirect impose. He would demonstrate his X-factor in verbal and non-verbal communication by communicating on other issues NOT RELATED TO HIS PROFICIENCY IN VERBAL AND NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION. For instance, in just like any casual interaction between a couple, they might talk about food, clothes, shoes, work or anything fun under the sky! Both the guy and the girl respectively will separately be trying to indirectly/secretly impose their best personality traits and ideas on the other, to make sure the other stays attracted for as long as they desire! And the way they suggest their gender supremacy with respect to other mating prospects is through their interactions using verbal and nonverbal communication, rather than ABOUT verbal and nonverbal communication!

So the imposition of ideas has taken place, good Eunice, just that it doesnt happen directly. And this works in any area of professional communication in any sphere of living, Eunice. At the workplace you want the same dont you? You want to be able to impose your ideas about yourself on others in the workplace because YOU WANT TO ATTRACT AND INFLUENCE THEM----THE SAME WAY A PROSPECTIVE GROOM WANTS HIS PROSPECTIVE WIFE TO THINK AND FEEL VERY WELL ABOUT HIM!

This brings us to the question on the NATURE OF THE IMPOSITION OF IDEAS! The imposition of ideas would only be sanctioned IF YOU ARE TRYING TO IMPOSE IDEAS ABOUT YOURSELF IN OTHERS, AND LESS ABOUT TRYING TO IMPOSE IDEAS ABOUT OTHERS IN THEMSELVES!! There is a way to do the latter but it cannot be done directly. The way I feel one should do the latter is through using one's body of personal physical, mental, social, political, spiritual experiences to change the views of others about themselves. But I won't talk too much about the latter because it's complicated and more difficult. Let me talk about the former---about trying to impose ideas about yourself in others, which is to change people's ideas about yourself.

For instance the prospective groom wants his prospective wife to feel that he is a very matured interpersonal communicator and therefore she can put her faith and trust in him for eternity, so he needs to demonstrate it; or in the workplace, an employee wants to convince his boss that he is the right man to take up the new overseas management role, so he again must demontrate it through actual evidence and also his ability to verbally and nonverbally communicate his suitability for that role. In all these examples the imposition is exclusively personally biased. The imposition involves MARKETING oneself to others. So, Eunice, it follows that THERE IS IMPOSITION TAKING PLACE! It also follows that is there NOTHING CLEARLY WRONG in imposing the views concerning oneself in others, UNLESS THE INTENT IS TO DECEIVE, WHICH FOLLOWS YOU WANT TO LIE ABOUT YOURSELF!!!!! It follows too that YOU ARENT disrespecting others when you impose your TRUE views concerning yourself in others, unless your method of trying to impose is reprehensible. For instance, the employee might AGGRESSIVELY CONFRONT his boss at GUNPOINT to make his boss see that he is suited for the role, which is of course daft!!! Or for the prospective groom, he may mistakenly use the weapon of threat and revenge to force his prospective wife to see that he is the most eligible bachelor on earth for her, which follows that he just did the opposite!!! In all these examples I show that you can impose ideas about yourself on others, but you just have to use the best interpersonal methodology to do so, and while doing so, you have also done the ideals of attraction and influence in professional communication the GREATEST, FINEST, FITTEST JUSTICE!!!!

Now consider another angle Eunice, the one I talked about a few paragraphs above----about imposing your view of others on themselves! Did I not say that was a complicated and highly challenging issue? The reason is because other people or agents do not like being told something is wrong with them, their views or agent! Because we agents are highly autonomous beings once we reach adulthood, and we given that free will as adults, will almost always tend to employ that autonomy to the exclusion of others. That is why adulthood is one of the evils. But having said that, there are certain advantages that come with adulthood, nonetheless. (In every thing/person/type/nature there are both good and bad). However, it is the disadvantages (negativity) rather than the advantages (positivity) of adulthood, or for that matter anything else on earth, that tend to exert a stronger pull on our psyche/mind/soul/spirit. How is this true? For instance, we can SO EASILY THINK AND FEEL THAT SOMEBODY IS JUDGING (negative) US WE CAN EVEN PREDICT THEIR JUDGEMENT COMING!!! That is why it has to be true when I say that the disadvantages (negatives) associated with adulthood or anything else on earth have a stronger influence on our psyches/minds/spirits than the advantages(positives). That is just one fine example! But let me move on to what I am supposed to talk about, that of which concerns imposing your views of others on themselves---which you think is wrong and disrespectful.

Consider this case good Eunice. Would you say a pastor in front of his congregation is being disrespectful or doing something wrong when he preaches about Scripture? That would be the last thing you would say about the job of a pastor's right? Rather a pastor can tell others' faults to them straight in their faces because he is employing an expert interpersonal demeanour and posture to address his congregation concerning issues about where they have failed as Christians in their duty to God and being true to him. Wouldnt you say so? And the pastor is therefore IMPOSING God's views of their behaviour or sin on them!! Isn't that right too? The pastor addresses his congregation in a civil, noble and polite manner, which is also interpersonal, and he uses HIS AND OTHERS' EXPERIENCES AND SHORTCOMINGS TO MAKE HIS CONGREGATION SEE AND AGREE THAT THEY SIMILARLY HAVE QUITE THE SAME EXPERIENCES AND SHORTCOMINGS AS HUMAN BEINGS!!!!! So the pastor is also employing EMPATHY! Also the pastor is addressing his audience as mature adults not kids, and so he wouldnt be TALKING DOWN as he would with toddlers. All these will facilitate his goal to impose and ingrain the Word of God in his congregation.  So Eunice, it is not at all impossible, or even remotely disrespectful to impose your views of others on them if you know how to do it correctly! And you can apply the same interpersonal expertise of a pastor's to impose your view of others on themselves both in the workplace and outside of it.

In fact, right now as I write, I am precisely doing the thing of trying to impose my ideas of yours on you, or dont you see it, good Eunice? You couldnt call that disrespect would you? That should be the furthest thing from your mind, isn't that right? In fact the closest thing to think, Eunice, is that I have done you the greatest respect out of anybody in this forum, by writing in such detail, effervescence AND LENGTH!!!

A Toss