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Thank you Eunice for a most excellent posting yet again!
But I'm not sure if anybody knew; body language isnt an absolute marker of communication. I would say it is something else, though I wouldnt be so sure if I would say it here as it is out of topic! But body language isn't everything in a communication, and sometimes it is almost nothing. For the best communicators can falsify body languages very well, how should you expect to think that body language can be a transient, much less absolute, marker of professional communication? That doesnt make the most sense!
In fact, effective communication itself is all about falsifying body languages: hiding a tear here or masking a pout there! Consequently, body language really isnt so much about communication, if we defined communication to be an exchange of ABSOLUTE TRUTHS (in perfect honesty); rather it is much more about prevarication that is acting! But we know we are imperfect and we cannot be fully honest about honest things, much less dishonest ones, or isnt that so very true for all of us? When you do something morally wrong (some dishonest thing), you already feel some inhibition to admission---fear. In the same way, when you feel an honest emotion fill you after a depressive episode such as sadness or some frustration, you don't let it show in front of your professor or friends, not at least so soon and not without more mutual trust and connection developed for you to pour your heart out.
So it doesnt make sense to say we can communicate with our body language ( a point I didnt take up with Brad or anybody in class proper, because that would sound like I lost my mind) if we don't actually always, or at all, match our most honest (absolute truths about ourselves) emotions and feelings with the same most honest body language.
Look at lie detector tests. Nowadays, people can pass lie detector tests easily and that should really get people started on thinking body language and other verbal and nonverbal cues can be easily prevaricated. It shows the potential of human beings to mislead and deceive, both in well-intentioned as well as ill-intentioned ways, through body language and other verbal and non-verbal ways, as well as for further evolution and improvement in the prevarication.
One day, human beings will be so emotionally sophisticated nobody would ever be able to tell anybody else's true emotions, feelings and intentions! In short we would be the best 'liars' on of all time! Isn't that really where professional communication in this module is taking us to? If so, we better get out quick, and enrol in the class that teaches honest communication immediately! Hopefully Brad don't kill me for this haha...
Real effective communication looks at the heart/mind/spirit (internal, absolute intentions) rather than the external body language like facial expression, eyes, nose, ears, deportment, gestures, hair, smile or whatever. But the irony and somewhat the evil too, is, nobody is ever good at the former. No human being, at least not without some help of an external agent or otherwise, is ever tending to look through the facade of physical external appearance because we are just too excellently socialized (socialization as the evil) and thereby entrenched in the ways, or more accurately illusion, of our world. And those ways include being so hopelessly good at sizing up the illusion (external appearance and the like of people/things/objects) which begets even more of it, thereby further handicapping the other ability to read the heart/mind/spirit, and we fall into some sort of truncated state of living and life in which we think all is well and good! How wrong, so wrong! We need to get out of that limbo without delay!
Really, professional communication will only get us so far; but honest communication will get us further to some Paradise, in all certainty I say; because the former looks at things superficial, while the latter looks at things everlasting---the heart/mind/spirit.
I think the real professional communicators, the best (not as in PERFECT, but more next-best kinda HUMAN best) of them have to be some sort of honest ones as well; who have learnt to size the exteriors of appearance, of course, but also recognized and further went on to develop the more salient skill of internal mastery of FIRST THEMSELVES then others; and who though not necessarily always succeed in the latter, will always make the effort to undertake communication to involve the heart/mind/spirit, thereby half-removing themselves from the dangerously absorbing Matrix of our world, and providing some hope and direction for the rest of us wanting to learn TRUE professional communication.
With that, it also must logically follow that the same best communicators, who are professional in all ways honest, have themselves cultivated absolute moral values: purity, respect for life, self-discipline, moderation, humility, forgiveness, love, integrity and above all TRUTHFULNESS; and they are blameless with regards to these, if not in their own view, then ESPECIALLY in other's, with the latter the overall marker of a TRUE (HONEST) professional communicator.
Thank you Eunice for a most excellent posting yet again!
But I'm not sure if anybody knew; body language isnt an absolute marker of communication. I would say it is something else, though I wouldnt be so sure if I would say it here as it is out of topic! But body language isn't everything in a communication, and sometimes it is almost nothing. For the best communicators can falsify body languages very well, how should you expect to think that body language can be a transient, much less absolute, marker of professional communication? That doesnt make the most sense!
In fact, effective communication itself is all about falsifying body languages: hiding a tear here or masking a pout there! Consequently, body language really isnt so much about communication, if we defined communication to be an exchange of ABSOLUTE TRUTHS (in perfect honesty); rather it is much more about prevarication that is acting! But we know we are imperfect and we cannot be fully honest about honest things, much less dishonest ones, or isnt that so very true for all of us? When you do something morally wrong (some dishonest thing), you already feel some inhibition to admission---fear. In the same way, when you feel an honest emotion fill you after a depressive episode such as sadness or some frustration, you don't let it show in front of your professor or friends, not at least so soon and not without more mutual trust and connection developed for you to pour your heart out.
So it doesnt make sense to say we can communicate with our body language ( a point I didnt take up with Brad or anybody in class proper, because that would sound like I lost my mind) if we don't actually always, or at all, match our most honest (absolute truths about ourselves) emotions and feelings with the same most honest body language.
Look at lie detector tests. Nowadays, people can pass lie detector tests easily and that should really get people started on thinking body language and other verbal and nonverbal cues can be easily prevaricated. It shows the potential of human beings to mislead and deceive, both in well-intentioned as well as ill-intentioned ways, through body language and other verbal and non-verbal ways, as well as for further evolution and improvement in the prevarication.
One day, human beings will be so emotionally sophisticated nobody would ever be able to tell anybody else's true emotions, feelings and intentions! In short we would be the best 'liars' on of all time! Isn't that really where professional communication in this module is taking us to? If so, we better get out quick, and enrol in the class that teaches honest communication immediately! Hopefully Brad don't kill me for this haha...
Real effective communication looks at the heart/mind/spirit (internal, absolute intentions) rather than the external body language like facial expression, eyes, nose, ears, deportment, gestures, hair, smile or whatever. But the irony and somewhat the evil too, is, nobody is ever good at the former. No human being, at least not without some help of an external agent or otherwise, is ever tending to look through the facade of physical external appearance because we are just too excellently socialized (socialization as the evil) and thereby entrenched in the ways, or more accurately illusion, of our world. And those ways include being so hopelessly good at sizing up the illusion (external appearance and the like of people/things/objects) which begets even more of it, thereby further handicapping the other ability to read the heart/mind/spirit, and we fall into some sort of truncated state of living and life in which we think all is well and good! How wrong, so wrong! We need to get out of that limbo without delay!
Really, professional communication will only get us so far; but honest communication will get us further to some Paradise, in all certainty I say; because the former looks at things superficial, while the latter looks at things everlasting---the heart/mind/spirit.
I think the real professional communicators, the best (not as in PERFECT, but more next-best kinda HUMAN best) of them have to be some sort of honest ones as well; who have learnt to size the exteriors of appearance, of course, but also recognized and further went on to develop the more salient skill of internal mastery of FIRST THEMSELVES then others; and who though not necessarily always succeed in the latter, will always make the effort to undertake communication to involve the heart/mind/spirit, thereby half-removing themselves from the dangerously absorbing Matrix of our world, and providing some hope and direction for the rest of us wanting to learn TRUE professional communication.
With that, it also must logically follow that the same best communicators, who are professional in all ways honest, have themselves cultivated absolute moral values: purity, respect for life, self-discipline, moderation, humility, forgiveness, love, integrity and above all TRUTHFULNESS; and they are blameless with regards to these, if not in their own view, then ESPECIALLY in other's, with the latter the overall marker of a TRUE (HONEST) professional communicator.
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Just some clarification of my above stance in the post. It is not to say I can fully disregard having any sort of appropriate body language in respective settings of communication in life, just because the heart/mind/spirit is more important or internal than the physical external appearance. It does not mean I can be a total mop or slop on the outside because if people really knew they really should be looking at me inside. That is not the case, and not consistent with an honest professional communicator driven by the core values I've written in the final paragraph above.
Rather, the true professional communicator though he gives priority to his or other's inward outlook, still observes but doesn't place too much emphasis on his and other's exteriors; and later with time and age, has his exterior disposition presided completely over by his substance inward, which will allow him greater ability and wisdom to look at others' also more concretely.
Buenas
Rather, the true professional communicator though he gives priority to his or other's inward outlook, still observes but doesn't place too much emphasis on his and other's exteriors; and later with time and age, has his exterior disposition presided completely over by his substance inward, which will allow him greater ability and wisdom to look at others' also more concretely.
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