Eunice and Empathy (2)

In this issue, Eunice continues her fascination with empathy, only this time she is determined to win over her participant(s) in the interaction by unreservedly aligning herself with them. Might that raise issues?

O Eunice, you raised a fantastic point!!!!!!

You are talking about empathy and that is very important here again!!! However, I'm also worried a girl like you could become so wide of heart that you would let down all your guard and give your pluck to the other party that you be stuck!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Rather I believe Eunice you should have added that you would empathize ONLY TO A CERTAIN LIMIT, BECAUSE THEN YOU WOULD BE PRACTICING MODERATION AND JUSTICE VIRTUES!!! You can never empathize with a person fully Eunice, because you will need to be that person, which you cannot and knowing you cannot and still try to be like his/her mind/soul/psyche/spirit/nature/heart will bring you to a more severe interpersonal pit than if you DIDNT EMPATHIZE WITH HIM/HER IN THE FIRST EVENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It is like trying to be a master of a trade when you aren't one; such as a trainee fighter pilot believing he is as good as his master and want to take the skies to engage in enemy battle. He obviously would let his life, master and kin down because fighter pilots who take to the skies in battles are masters of their trades, not rookies!!!!!!

All you need to do Eunice, is find one trait, emotion, value, virtue, ethic; or non-trait, non-emotion, non-value, non-virtue, non-ethic, in which you can empathize; that would be more than enough for you to create a connection and a thoroughfare into the person's emotional, mental, spiritual world!!!!! Again, by virtue of moderation and Justice, Eunice, you don't want to create too many connections especially if it is just a professional work sphere or anybody on the street or bus-stop; unless it is your hubby or son or daughter you are doing the connection with!!!!!

Also when you do this connection by empathy with that stranger or acquaintance anywhere, you want to be careful not to sell your soul to him/her because for all you know you might have done so to the devil himself!!!!!!!!!! That is the problem or grey area of empathy under adverse circumstances. But most of the time in the workplace professionally, people are cultured, goodwilling and generally well-intentioned; but you still don't want to be given completely to another person's fundamental agency if you simply want to gain her friendship, understanding, faith, agreement, acceptance, tolerance, and maintain a good working relationship. You want to align yourself in such a CONSIDERABLE AND CONCERNED YET TACITLY FIRM AND RESOLUTE AND SECURE WAY; so that you are not compromising your own virtues, ethics, values, rules to the other person's. Too much or being too involved is unjustified and therefore unmoderated because you lose your primary substance. This phenomenon is best demonstrated in peer pressure in boy-girl relationships!!!!

Empathy must cause your emotional, spiritual, mental, even physical, improvement and development and not the deteorioration of these domains that come only with over or unmoderated empathy!!!!!!!! In other words, under moderated empathy, THE OTHER PERSON MUST ALSO EMPATHIZE WITH YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU DO NOT DO THE WHOLESALE EMPATHY YOURSELF; YOU BECOME HALF THE PERSON, AND HE/SHE BECOMES THE HALF OF YOU!!!!!!!!!! THAT IS EMPATHY AT ITS VERY BEST IN INTERPERSONAL INTERACTION BECAUSE IT IS DEFINED BY PLATONIC PHILOSOPHY OF MODERATION OR JUSTICE, WHICH IS INTRINSICALLY ITS PERFECTION!!!!!!!!!!!

Cheers
Que completita!!