Danger in the City

Agent Eunice talks about the same old interpersonal issues, with no twist whatsoever nor fun thereof. Below is the synopsis in yellow followed by my accompanying response.

"Interpersonal conflict is best resolved when we speak the truth with strength and not authority. Very seldom will a person turn around by being told he/she is doing something wrong/unacceptable. Simply put, nobody likes to be talked down. However, a person will turn around if they are told something that points to their best interest.... We can do so by pointing out the natural consequence of their actions."

I'm glad you raised a fantastic point, Eunice!!!!

You see Eunice, why would you ever entertain the idea or thought of considering talking down to somebody else. Do you see Eunice, that your involuntary tendency to perhaps use the method of talking down to somebody was NOT EXCLUSIVELY YOUR FAULT. Do you know Eunice, the real philosophy of why you would ever be tempted or just so inclined to talk down to somebody else in a conflict, is because OF THE OTHER PERSON'S SUBJECT!!

In short Eunice, something about the other person's subjecet framed your method of  response; something about the illusion of the other person's subject, behaviour, or overall feel or vibe caused your reaction. In other words Eunice, in most cases before you learnt about interpersonal communication in ES2007S, you had absolutely no clue nor control nor awareness about the appropriateness of your response to any social interaction, or very little clue, control and awareness of these.

For if Eunice, there was some aura of invincibility, or congeniality, interpersonal refinement or beauty, poise and grace in the other person, no matter what sort of grave or petty conflict you get into with him or her, YOU WILL NEVER TALK DOWN TO HIM OR HER!!!! And that person need not be of high societal or professional standing to have such a good air about him or her that will endear you to him or her; for he can even be as poor as the street beggar or cobbler: but not poor of his nature/soul/mind/psyche/spirit/heart.

Voila Eunice, do you see now the metaphysical reality of interpersonal communication Eunice? Do you see now why you can have so much propensity or temptation to talk down to somebody was exclusively because as much as you think you affected others with your talking down, YOU WERE FIRST AFFECTED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are absolutely in no fault Eunice, if you talk down to me in this forum, because Eunice, I made you to do so. And whether I knowingly or unknowingly make you do so is another complicated metaphysical subject altogether, something I have perhaps covered in all my blog posts and on facebook here: the topic of deception/illusion.

To put it much better Eunice, you are justified. For if the other person really was being such an 'asshole', you are demanded to act in accordance to reality by talking down and telling him or her the cold, hard truth, directly and without reserve. On the other hand, as I have mentioned above, if you get into the most severe conflict with a person of such good air, you wouldn’t have the ability to talk down to him or her or directly say the cold, hard truth to him or her. You would be hurt yourself Eunice, rather than you did the other person, when you try to talk down to such a gentle being.

Therefore Eunice, it should not matter whether a person likes to be talk down or not, because the real matter, Eunice, is indeed whether he would be talked down to or not. In short Eunice, it isn’t an issue whether one can select being talked down to thereof it is a more pertinent issue WHY one can be talked down to!!!!!!!!!!! Now this is a topic that would be worthy of discussion. Why is that so?

Because you see Eunice, if you are so aware of others’ likes and dislikes, but unaware of the dislikes and likes that people have about you, you are guilty of poor personal accountability. You would be the person who would be the first to make a prejudiced intercultural judgment on another person or otherwise; and you would also be the first to lose emotional control. Rather Eunice, all success interpersonal or not, starts with or within you---knowing the likes and dislikes others have of you and working to correct them, whence you would have demonstrated your interpersonal/intrapersonal maturity by taking on responsibility and showing that everything begins with you; or that you would in order to effect a change in others, understand you need to change yourself FIRST: so that others can also change along with you.  

First you discipline your agency, disposition, and learn your morals, ethics, and norms of mutually respectful and gracious acting, thinking, speaking, working. And first you judge yourself Eunice, and make sure you are fit as a fiddle indeed in every area I indeed audit you. And therefore first make sure of your own intrapersonal success/purity/holiness/impeccability/justice/MODERATION/perfection/morality/ethnics, so that you have the rank TO JUDGE OTHERS, OR AS YOU SAID ABOVE TO BE AWARE OF OTHERS’ LIKES AND DISLIKES OR BE SO CONCERNED ABOUT WHAT THEY DON’T LIKE OR LIKE. Don’t trouble yourself Eunice, with what others like or dislike, for if you did so, WITHOUT HAVING KNOWN WHAT IT IS OTHERS LIKE OR DISLIKE ABOUT YOU, you are showing me what you really are---vain!!!!

So I have talked about two maters here, Eunice; first of which why you would talk down to somebody; second of which why you would be so concerned about others’ dispositions or predispositions, or likes and dislikes, when you have a more compelling one in you. If you would say your altruistic bountiful concern came from a big heart: but your poor personal accountability (not focused on what your objective/true strengths and especially weaknesses are, thereby naturally tending to egoism or misconceptions about how good you really are or otherwise) due to your un-moderated obsession with others’ likes and dislikes also came similarly from your big heart!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So there is a contradiction here Eunice, your supposed good and big heart sprung from 2 sources; one positive and the other negative. It is like saying, Eunice, you marry a man because you both hate and love him!!!!!!!! BUMMER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But according to moderation and justice philosophy Eunice, which I have written how many crazy times already in blog posts and on facebook, I can find no fault with your big, good and loving heart coming from light and dark, good and evil, positive and negative; neither can I find fault with you, if you so decide to be betrothed under the most ironical of media; by virtue of the dialectical argument of philosophy thereof if you demonstrated the other philosophy; moderation, in all your ways of betrothing or big-heartedness according to how we have discussed above, dearest Eunice, you are far from an abomination.

Beyond all these, I rather think also that the person who has been talked down learn to master his inwardly emotional energy and mount himself above and beyond the words of cold, hard truth. I would love to be talked down, if for nothing else because I will never reach vanity yonder!!!!

Let me tell you something: I rather not know that I know something, so that I do not be enamored of self-love, than know that I know something whereunto I may one day so come to Gnostic realization of the full gravity of my functions and capabilities, that I  KNOW NOT HOW TO KNOW, SIMPLY DO NOT KNOW, OR LOST THE ABILITY TO KNOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What is the adage to contextualize?

“Too much knowledge is a bad thing, especially KNOWLEDGE OF KNOWLEDGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”

Maybe I should close down my blog of professional communication, because I'm deriving too much knowledge; and knowlege of knowledge, for all of my readers, classmates, and dangerously, myself.

Cheers
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