Hwee Teng and married life (2)

Continuation from part 1 

Which cultural group in our world demonstrate the most noble kinda marriage and its love? THE TIBETANS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Why?

Because they have a system of marriage where the men turned 18 are automatically assigned brides chosen by their parents and discussed with the girl’s parents. Neither the girl nor the boy has any part in the decision. The marriage is ‘forced’ automatically when the boy and girl turn 18; AND THEY ARE REQUIRED TO LOVE EACH OTHER EVEN IF THEY DON’T FEEL LIKE THEY LOVE OR ARE ATTRACTED TO EACH OTHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is most like agape love or most conducive media for the DEVELOPMENT OF AGAPE LOVE AND CONSEQUENTLY ANY OTHER NOBLE VALUES/VIRTUES/ETHICS OF LIFE THAT CAN FIND TWIN IN IT, and the divorce rates among such marriages?----NOT ONE EVER; OR NEARLY ZERO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

How in the world? Simply because the foundations of such ‘forced’ marriages where YOU LEARN TO LIKE SOMEONE OR SOMETHING WITHOUT NATURALLY ALREADY LIKING AND LOVING THAT BODY OR THING, are founded on stronger virtues and values of life (that is most like AGAPE), AS COMPARED TO THE CARTE BLANCHE MARRIAGES IN MOST WESTERN AND ASIAN NATIONS INCLUDING SINGAPORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

QUESTION IS, COULD THERE BE ANYTHING THING WRONG WITH ‘FORCED’ MARRIAGES OF SUCH CULTURAL GROUPS IF THEIR DIVORCE RATES ARE NEARLY NON-EXISTENT, OR HAVE WE SINGAPOREANS/AMERICANS/OTHERWISE BEEN MISTAKEN AND SIMPLY TOO BLIND (ILLUSION) BY OUR WAY OF SOCIALIZATION TO SEE ITS EVERY GOOD, AND THEREFORE PROMOTE IN OUR OWN SOCIETIES!!!!!!

For if Hwee Teng’s parents were to assign her a pre-selected (BUT NON RANDOM OF COURSE, BECAUSE THERE WAS CAREFUL SELECTION) husband not of her own free will, she will be totally disgusted and cry a human rights transgression!!!!!! That is because she was socialized (illusion) to view marriage differently from the Tibetans, and vice versa for the Tibetans. Sadly to say, THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE OF THE MODERN WORLD’S ARE A NECESSARY EVIL, AND ALSO GROUNDS FOR THE REPRODUCTION OF FURTHER EVILS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If I were PM, I would revamp the institution of marriage in America and Singapore and wherever, to take a leaf out of Tibetans or otherwise!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

All this that I have said is similar to saying that YOU SHOULDN’T LEARN WHAT YOU ENJOY DOING MOST; OR YOU SHOULDN’T STUDY THE COURSE IN UNIVERSITY THAT YOU ENJOY AND LOVE MOST, OR THAT YOU SHOULDN'T DO A JOB THAT YOU ENJOY DOING MOST. Why? By virtue of the logic of marriage and divorce derived above, it is safe to say you WILL GAIN MORE SUCCESS DOING, LEARNING, WORKING THE THINGS YOU HATE MOST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Do you see the beauty of philosophy???? Philosophy derives answers to questions that most normal men cannot fathom or admit! Philosophy puts to death the believe that graduates should do the kinda professional work they love best!!!!!!!!!!!!! Instead, philosophy/religion/otherwise says something different: that its good if you can do the job you like best; but its better for the sharpening of your spirit to learn to do, love, enjoy, the work, spouse, course, body, thing that you did not originally first like or love, so that you do not take for granted the things you like best, OR ONE DAY FIND YOURSELF TRAP IN SELF-LOVE BECAUSE YOU HAD TOO MUCH OF YOUR WAY OR COMFORT ZONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! These words in bold are the most important reasons why you SHOULDN’T DO WHAT YOU LOVE OR LIKE TO DO; and you SHOULDN’T LOVE (OR ULTIMATELY GET MARRIED TO) THE BOY/GIRL YOU FIRST LOVE OR LIKE AT FIRST SIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I apologize to all the girls and guys of ES2007s for saying something so bold: but that philosophy was meant to be bold!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have no choice and I’m honest; I’m not the one whose bold or crazy: but that philosophy is of that nature.

So therefore, all my fellow ES2007s coursemates, I only have one advice for you, contrary to what Brad, Eunice or Yu Tian(in his blog I think) pupports:

“Don’t do the work you love; don’t study the course you love; don’t ever ever ever stay together or get married to the girl or boy your eyes endear themselves to!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I’m not saying you wont gain anything good from doing the things you love: BUT THAT THERE IS INFINITELY MORE TO BE GAINED SPIRITUALLY, MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY, BY DOING THE THINGS YOU HATE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And I cringe and face in my palms at the sight of NUS Career speakers from CDTL and CELC or otherwise, who are so called experts in the field of work-life, and who all of them promote doing what’s best for your short-term and long term satisfaction and enjoyment!!! But I couldn’t blame them if they needed to say WHAT PEOPLE WANTED TO HEAR!!!!!!!!; for if they said otherwise, society and cultural norms will demand they be sack from the job!!! Haha!

Cheers